1. It teaches children principles of respect and dignity
2. It provides safety for children and their parents
3. Uses neutral experts, which reduces costs
4. Satisfies the need of everyone to feel fairly treated
5. Keeps the financial affairs of the family private
6. Avoids the blame game and the associated negativity
7. Reduces hostility and acrimony
8. Turns the process into a professional opportunity for education and information
9. The Rules of Engagement are clearly defined
10. There are no surprises, sabotage, or a-bombs
11. Legal collaboration raises the level of information and increases the likelihood of equity
12. Settlements are more solid
13. Discovery wars are eliminated
14. The battle of the experts is avoided
15. Lawyers are able to focus on legal issues and on problem solving, which is a much more satisfying professional experience
Divorce should be managed through the collaborative process. Divorce is simply an issue that is too large to trust to only one professional discipline. The issues are far too complex to expect one set of experts to have sufficient knowledge, experience, and background to reach the best possible result for all concerned. The client is always in the position of providing the best answer to the complex needs of families in crisis. The number one job of the divorce professional is education, information, and instruction. The number two job is modeling behaviors for the parties for operating an estate of diminished capacity. The third job is conflict management and dispute resolution. The fourth job is to provide a safe, protected environment for the raising of healthy, whole, and complete children.